There is a difference between an affair and a relationship. An affair is a fling. There isn’t any commitment involved.
The husband is bored with the marriage. Maybe having a child put a strain in the relationship. It’s easy for a wife to forget that the grown man she married needs some attention too. So what does he do? He maybe meets someone who makes him feel important. That progresses to them having sex. Time goes on and nothing changes at home. He sees more and more of his other woman. Then, one day he realizes that he has more feelings for his girlfriend than he does for his wife.
An affair usually means sex and take out. A relationship means sharing lives.
Let’s be honest, Valentine’s Day is awkward for almost everybody.
But it can be even more uncomfortable when you just started seeing somebody and are still in the “Just Fun” phase.
However, there are some ways to get through this holiday when you’re not in an ultra-serious relationship.
1 – Have realistic expectations. Some (very few) people go all out on Valentine’s Day, even when they are “casually” dating somebody.
2 – But, don’t just avoid and/or ignore the holiday all together. That makes for a very awkward and rough start to a relationship.
3 – Start small. Think: a nice (but not too expensive) dinner, bringing your “girlfriend” a modest bouquet of flowers, writing your girlfriend an endearing but light-hearted note etc.
4 – Don’t be sad or insulted if your new flame isn’t too over eager about celebrating the “Day of Love” with you quite yet.
5 – Last, but not Least, on February 14th, dress the part, put a smile on your face, and don’t act uncomfortable at all. Just have fun!!!